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like thinking back, i haven’t been claimed to friendzone many boys. why? because boys don’t want me like that. i am black and grew up in predominantly white areas. the whole friend zone spiel is this:
i do everything for you
i’m your friend
i am soooo nice to you
i stick around and listen to you cry about boys who are mean to you
i do homework for you
or bend over backwards
do things you didn’t ask me to
try to be “nice” and “please” in ways that are above
and beyond what many women consider average.
but i say friend zone is racialized cause how many boys are doing this for Black girls? bending over backwards, doing all the nice things, looking like they have to “cherish” them as the gateway to the ass (and let’s be clear, all nice guys want is ASS). and it’s funny because as a young black girl, there were so many white boys i was friends with but also liked but i was never that option. being black means not an option to fawn over and bend over for and cry over. just not. and i have never felt really friend zoned or entitled to those boys time or ass. but i felt sad that perception didn’t allow them to see what’s inside of me.
